"can't see the forest for the trees"

After having a rather bad day today and every day for the last 3 months I couldn't help wondering: does everything really happen for a reason?

I know it all depends on how you take those bad situations, you can whether learn from them or you can feel lost and wonder "why me?". Well, I think lately I've spent my time swinging from one to the other; sometimes I think that rough times can really make a person grow up and learn from mistakes but there's always desperation and restlessness when wondering if I'm ever going to get through it.

I've heard many times people say: "you can't see the forest for the trees" and this means that when we are in trouble we can't really see the whole picture, we feel trapped and we are so caught up in the problem that we can't really think that better times will come and that this too, shall pass...

I think that overcoming any difficult situation in life is related to having a positive attitude towards it and keeping in mind that not everything is lost.

I really envy people who can do that because it doesn't seem to be that easy for me, I hate to admit but whenever in trouble I tend to feel so trapped and preoccupied that I can't just see a way out that easy; I can't stop asking myself if there's really a reason or if it's really something better on its way like everybody keeps telling me.

mar

"communication goes both ways..."

I think all humans around the world have felt the need to communicate...

By "communicate" I don't mean just talking and looking for someone to hear, I mean expressing and being willing to listen what others need to say. Real communication goes both ways, listening to others and expressing ourselves. But how many of us really communicate nowadays? How many of us are willing to care about anything others want to say? To learn and to accept advice?

We were meant to be sociable, to interact with each other, to express our feelings and wishes and to listen to others' feelings; nevertheless, we're so afraid of talking most of the time and we're even more frightened to listen.

But why is it so hard to communicate? If communicating is natural how come most of us be so stupid at it? Why are we so reluctant? And when we try it, why can't we pick the right time or the right set of words to exactly say what we need to say??? I don't really have an answer for that, all I can do is think of all the times I haven't said the right words; Have you ever felt like that?

I think this innate need of communicating found its way in modern blogs, for they are definitely based on sharing thoughts, feelings and all kinds of comments about anything. Blogs are a good chance of practising our communication skills, needless to say, so necessary at present.

Writing about communication made me think of how different everything would be if we tried listening once in a while and if we just tried saying whatever is in our hearts.

I'm just putting out my words, hoping to communicate and willing to make a difference.

Thank you for reading and leaving any comments.

mar